Lately, I've been struggling with writing and I know it's partly due to the fact that I'm going through some personal challenges. (Nothing serious, don't worry. Just the all-too-familiar self-doubts, wavering energy, and general lack of sparkiness.) Most days I feel like I have so much to share I can barely contain myself and then other times, like lately, I can't even form a coherent sentence.
So instead of just waiting for inspiration to return (who knows how long it could be?!), I decided I'd speak to what is happening for me right now with the intent of bringing us closer together. Perhaps if I share that I'm struggling, it might remind you that you are not alone in your suffering. Ever. Dark days and crazy thoughts don't just happen to you, but to all of us. It's part of being human.
Do you know what helps? Reaching out. Speaking up. Asking for help. In recovery, I learned the two of the most healing words we can hear are "Me, too."
I'm having a hard time.
Sometimes I don't know what I am doing.
This weather is killing me slowly.
Hearing that others are having human experiences decreases our isolation. As human beings we are wired for connection, but society tells us we should be able to handle it ourselves, to pull our shit together, to be ashamed on some level for not having it all together, all the time. What a radical notion then to consider reaching out and sharing what's going on! We do better when we are connected with other supportive humans.
Are you going through a rough patch? Are you going through it alone? Could you benefit from reaching out and connecting with someone? Do it! And remember...
1.) Everyone goes through rough times. Even your therapist.
2.) Speak up. You are not alone. (Me, too!)
3.) And even when we don't feel it, we are connected to each other and everything around us. Reach out and allow yourself to experience that connection. It helps.